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What to do if your child prefers your partner more?
Is your child favoring one parent over the other? Don’t worry—it’s a common phase! Learn why this happens, how to handle it, and discover how coding can help strengthen your bond with your child. Geeklama’s fun, interactive coding classes are a great way to connect and grow together.
“I want Dad to tuck me in tonight, not you!”
“I only want Mommy to help me!”

If you’ve ever heard these words from your child, you’re not alone. Many parents experience moments when their child seems to favor one parent over the other. While it’s a common phase, it can leave the non-preferred parent feeling hurt or questioning their parenting skills.

At Geeklama, we understand that parenting is full of challenges—and this is one of them. But did you know that activities like coding can help strengthen your bond with your child and even out the playing field? Let’s dive into why this happens and what you can do about it.
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Why Does My Child Prefer One Parent?
Children often gravitate toward one parent for simple reasons:
  • Comfort: They might feel more at ease with one parent for certain tasks.
  • Routine: If one parent usually handles bedtime or playtime, the child may associate those activities with them.
  • Skills: Maybe one parent tells better stories or makes bath time more fun.
While it’s normal, it’s important to address this dynamic so both parents can share responsibilities and build strong connections with their child.
What Can You Do as the Non-Preferred Parent?
  1. Don’t Take It Personally
  2. It’s easy to feel hurt, but remember—this is likely just a phase. Kids go through phases all the time, and this one will pass.
  3. Be Firm but Understanding
  4. If your child insists on only one parent, gently but firmly explain that both parents are there to help. For example:
  5. “I know you want Mommy to read you a story tonight, but I’m here to do it with you. Let’s make it fun!”
  6. Create Special Bonding Moments
  7. Schedule one-on-one time with your child doing something they love. Whether it’s building a LEGO set, playing a game, or—yes—coding together, these moments can strengthen your connection.
  8. Learn What Makes the Preferred Parent “Preferred”
  9. Is it their storytelling skills? Their patience during playtime? Observe and try to incorporate some of those qualities into your interactions.

How Coding Can Help Bridge the Gap

Coding isn’t just about learning tech skills—it’s a fantastic way to bond with your child. Here’s how:

  • Shared Activity: Coding together creates a fun, collaborative experience that both you and your child can enjoy.
  • Builds Confidence: When you guide your child through a coding project, they’ll see you as a partner in their learning journey.
  • Encourages Independence: Coding teaches kids problem-solving and creativity, which can help them feel more secure and less reliant on one parent.

At Geeklama, our online coding classes for kids aged 6–17 are designed to be engaging and interactive. Whether your child is a beginner or already loves tech, they’ll find something to spark their interest—and you can join in too!
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What Can the Preferred Parent Do?
If you’re the “chosen one,” it’s important to support your partner:
  • Encourage Their Efforts: Remind your partner of the things they do well and how much your child loves them.
  • Step Back Sometimes: Let your partner take the lead on certain tasks, even if your child initially resists. Consistency is key.
A United Front: The Key to Parenting Success
Like everything in parenting, teamwork makes the dream work. Presenting a united front helps your child feel secure and teaches them to respect both parents equally. And remember—this phase won’t last forever.

Reference:
  • Arnall, J. L. (2018). Attachment Parenting Tips, Raising Toddlers To Teens. Canada: Judy Arnall.
Ready to Strengthen Your Bond with Your Child?
Coding isn’t just a skill for the future—it’s a tool for connection today. At Geeklama, we offer free trial classes for kids aged 6–17. It’s a fun, low-pressure way to explore coding together and create lasting memories.

Let’s turn this parenting challenge into an opportunity to grow closer to your child. Because at the end of the day, it’s not about being the “favorite”—it’s about being there for them, every step of the way.
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